Does this sound familiar?
“5, 4, 3, 2, 1…. Happy New Year!!!!”
It’s a new year, it’s time for a new me. It’s time for me to change. I’m going to set a new years resolution of losing 10 kgs in 4 months in time for my birthday. Ooooh Yeah!!!
So I’m going to set my alarm for 5am every morning and go to the gym every single day!!!!
I start off well going everyday for the first month, some days I hit the snooze button and sleep in but I go in the evening, so I still went. So I give myself a break for one day as a reward… A few weeks later, I give myself 2 days off because Winter is truly here and it’s so hard to wake up in the dark cold mornings!!!! the week after 3 days off… after 3 months I stop completely because I got sick and work has gotten too busy or something else has gotten in the way. I never go back, and what’s worst I’m heavier than when I first started.
Fact, you’re never going to feel like it!
So you need to understand how you work. If you don't feel like going to the gym, find a way to exercise at home or at a park. That’s why our program DIYPT is perfect. You don't need to go to the gym. You can do it anytime and anywhere!
So don't force yourself to change and do something you don't want to do. If you want to change, make sure you really WANT to change. In fact, change your want to a MUST! Because when things get hard, and they will.… You’ll give up, unless you MUST change.
Someone once said that there are 2 types of motivation. Push vs pull.
Push, you force yourself to do something because you know you have to change but it’s generally something you’re not used to doing and possibly don’t enjoy doing and is a “nice to have”, like setting yourself a new years resolution to lose 10 kilograms in 4 months.
You’ll start well because motivation will get you started but because it’s a “nice to have”, that is, you want it in time for your birthday, you're less likely to stick to it. When its a “nice to have, you're setting yourself up to fail.
- “It would be nice to have lost 10kgs”
- “Nice to have won lotto”
- “Nice to have a new house”
- “Nice to have a boyfriend/girlfriend”
I guarantee 100% of you on the other side of this screen has said one of these things. And we all know that when we say it would be nice to have, it will never happen. Turn your want to a MUST.
A pull motivation, on the other hand, is when you are forced to change, otherwise something bigger will happen that’s out of your control. There is no “nice to have”. It’s a MUST!. For example, before I started my PT business I worked as a HR Consultant for 10 years. For many years I wanted to change careers because I wasn’t happy. What kept me in the job was the safety net of a good salary and a secure income at that.
Then in my 10th anniversary, I asked myself is this what I want to be doing for the rest of my life? Do I enjoy my job? Is it paying enough for my family to be able to live the lifestyle we want to live? If I want to change careers, I need to do it now!
This is where I turned my “Nice to have a new career” into “I MUST have a new career”.
Of course it was tough, but I was very driven. And what drove me was knowing that my business will set my family up financially, allowing my mum to be able to retire soon and that I will be doing something that I’m passionate about.
All of a sudden, there is a high level of accountability on my part. It’s a must do, not a “nice to have”.
Or it could be what Simon Sinek says, it must be a cause, purpose or belief. I’ll talk more about this next week because pull motivations are so powerful that I want to address it in it’s own Weekly Revive. We call it ‘Finding your why’. Stay tuned.
Until then, Remember, keep your eyes on the prize!